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  • Writer's pictureChristie A. Cruise, PhD

Want The Ultimate Valentine's Day? Date Yourself!

You're at arms reach But baby, where are you?

...'Cause I'm lonely Whenever you're around

Whenever You're Around - Jill Scott

You know what's worse than spending Valentine's Day alone if you desire to be with someone? Being with someone and still being alone. Being in a relationship does not guarantee that you will have the Valentine's Day of your dreams. I know. I've been there and done that. I've been married and still disappointed on Valentine's Day. And, let me tell you, that's the worst. Then there are some people who get dumped right before Valentine's Day. Ouch! That one hurts.

Now, if Valentine's Day isn't your thing, that's perfectly fine. But, if it is, then this is for you. There was a time in my life when I found myself disappointed on Valentine's Day either because I was single with no prospects or in a relationship but was still not getting my needs met. After years of disappointment and frustration I decided to do something different. It was while I was still married that I began to give to myself the Valentine's Day that I wanted and deserved. One year I treated myself to dinner at my favorite restaurant, bought myself a box of chocolates and a bouquet of roses. This turned out to be my best Valentine's Day. After that, I made this my Valentine's Day tradition.

And, you know what? This works for me. I know exactly what I like, so I get THE best gifts each year. Even if I meet someone and we get to a point in our relationship where we decide to buy each other gifts, I still plan to continue the tradition. The truth is, I enjoy treating myself and I deserve it and more. If and when I decide to share my life with someone, the relationship won't replace my self-love and self-care, it will only enhance or compliment it.

What do you want for Valentine's Day? What's keeping you from getting it for yourself? Go on, buy yourself that diamond bracelet or red dress or coat with the fur collar!

You deserve it!

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